Saturday, November 17, 2012

It's National Adoption Day, Baby!

When my foster to adopt journey started in 2007, I had no idea my little family would end up the way it is today. On the first Family Share night we attended, 3 words were given by a seasoned fost/adopt Mommy:

"Expect The Unexpected"

Indeed.

Happy National Adoption Day to all the families that are trying to navigate their way through the system, to the kiddos that wait and a BIG CONGRATULATIONS to all who had their adoptions finalized today. I am so thankful for my two beautiful children, they keep me laughing and on my toes.  I could not imagine my life without them.


November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

As always, feel free to contact me as well if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey: TheWanderingMel@gmail.com

Friday, November 16, 2012

We Partied...

Today the county we were certified with celebrated families that adopted in 2012. We had a lovely lunch, professional family portraits taken and mingled with social workers and friends we had not seen in what feels like forever.  It was wall to wall smiles and tears.  The Magistrate that presided over our adoption spoke (and, come to find out, was a C.A.S.A., G.A.L. and Mommy via adoption). Three families were made official today, six more are adoptions are being finalized tomorrow (the official National Adoption Day).

 A big, "Thank You!" to all that volunteered and donated their time and efforts. Also to Celestial Seasonings for the darling bears.

I might share them.  ;)


November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

As always, feel free to contact me as well if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey: TheWanderingMel@gmail.com

Wednesday, November 14, 2012

This Fella Was Adopted...

And went on to do some pretty cool things..


Did I mention I posted this from my iPhone?

November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

As always, feel free to contact me as well if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey: TheWanderingMel@gmail.com

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

I'm Just A Kid...

Not a stigma, not an offender ... just a kid.



November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

As always, feel free to contact me as well if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey: TheWanderingMel@gmail.com

Sunday, November 11, 2012

The Truth.. And Nothing But The Truth..


MYTHS & REALITIES

Nearly 81.5 million Americans have considered adopting a child. If just one in 500 of these adults adopted, every waiting child in foster care would have a permanent family.
But foster care adoption is often misunderstood, preventing children from finding forever families. Discover some of the most common misconceptions, and read about the reality behind each.
Myth
Foster care adoption may cost less than private infant or international adoption, but it’s still expensive.
Reality
Foster care adoption normally costs little or nothing. Click here for more information on how much it costs to adopt.
Wandering Mel
I literally had no out of pocket expenses.  

Myth
A biological parent can come to take an adopted child back.
Reality
This is a fear for two-thirds of the people considering adoption. However, biological parents have no way to gain back custody of the child or children once their parental rights are terminated.
Wandering Mel 
The termination process is VERY thorough.. they absolutely left no stone unturned and take it very seriously.

Myth
Children enter foster care because they committed a crime.
Reality
This belief is held by 45 percent of Americans, but actually, children enter U.S. foster care through no fault of their own. Usually, they are victims of neglect, abandonment, or abuse.
Wandering Mel  
They are NOT the offenders, just innocent victims.

Myth
A single parent can’t provide a healthy environment for an adopted child.
Reality
A single parent can provide a loving, stable home. In fact, as the number of two-parent families declines, an increasing number of children live in single-parent homes. In 2006, this number was 28 percent.¹
Wandering Mel  
Although my journey started as a two-parent home, my husband passed away unexpectedly before the adoption.  By the grace of God, I am the proud single Mommy of my two beautiful children.  

Myth
No person over 55 can provide a healthy and loving environment for an adopted child.
Reality
This belief is held, erroneously, by 63% of Americans. In truth, almost one in four adopted children lives happily with an adoptive parent 55 years or older.
Wandering Mel  
One of the most amazing foster to adopt families I had the pleasure of meeting was a couple in their 60's.  They took in the "tough cases". Newborn babies with casts on their arms AND legs.  Babies that were considered failure to thrive and born addicted to drugs.  In spite of the hard days and even longer nights the love they poured over these little angels was incredible.  The difference they made is indescribable.  Of course, you can always ask country singer Jimmy Wayne his thoughts on this particular subject.  
Unless stated otherwise, all statistics are from the National Foster Care Adoption Attitudes Survey, commissioned by the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption and conducted by Harris Interactive, November 2007. Read the study here.
Taken From The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption

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November is National Adoption Awareness Month.  There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US.  100,000 are waiting for homes.  Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you can help make a difference.  As always, please feel free to contact me directly if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey:  The WanderingMel@gmail.com

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Like All Children...



What happened in our past was not our fault.  Like all children, we deserved a safe and loving home.  A mommy to tuck us in and kiss us goodnight, tend to our owies and comfort us when we're scared.  A forever family to teach us about boundaries and consequences, to dance with abandon, laugh until our tummies hurt and grow our self esteem.  Yes, we have our rough times and no, we're not perfect..

But what kids are?

November is National Adoption Awareness Month.  There are 400,000 children in the foster care system here in the US.  100,000 are just like us and waiting for a home.  Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information on how you can make a difference.

If you want to chat, feel free to email our Mommy at TheWanderingMel@gmail.com .. she loves to talk about us.

A lot.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Say Yes...

"... and see what your love can grow.."
 

November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

 As always, feel free to contact me as well if you have any questions about my personal adoption journey: TheWanderingMel@gmail.com

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

What The Best Day Ever Looks Like...

April, 2012 - A year and a half after my kiddos arrived that cold November night, we walked into court and made it official.

November is National Adoption Awareness Month. There are 400,000 children in the foster care system currently here in the US. 100,000 are waiting for homes. Visit our friends at the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption or The Adoption Exchange for more information about how you help make a difference.

Monday, November 5, 2012

Friday, November 2, 2012

Thursday, November 1, 2012

It's That Time Of Year Again!!!



November = National Adoption Awareness Month!

As many know,  I was a foster parent from 2009-2012, specifically in the fost/adopt (foster to adopt) program.  I blogged about it over on Full Circle.  During that time, seven beautiful children graced our home.  It was the most heart wrenching, physically and mentally grueling, humbling, joyous, enlightening and amazing experience of my life.  It was a journey that brought my son and daughter to me and I will forever be grateful for every sleepless night and tear shed.

I just cannot shelve the book on that time of my life.  There are more SweetPeas and LittleBuddys out there waiting, so my role as an advocate shall remain intact indefinitely.

Or at least until every child finds his or her family.

I'm not going to feed you a line.. it's not all bubbles and warm fuzzies.  I was am the bad cop, the hard ass, the rule maker, the one that doles out and follows through with the consequences.  My home is the first place they all learned structure and yes, it was a battle.  Daily, as a matter of fact.  But with consistency, therapy, love and lots of prayer also comes peace.  Sweet sweet peace.  I am the recipient of kisses, drawings of a happy family, giggles and witness to tremendous breakthroughs.  I am very proud of my children and love them deeply.

All kids deserve that, don't they?

For more information, check out our friends at The Adoption Exchange & Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption